Bringing Your Daughter into Sex Shops for the First Time

This post is focused on the case of mothers bring their daughters (who are over 18) into adult shops for the first time. This is a much more common parent child combination verses mother and son, daughter and father, etc, at least in my experience. Sometimes these interactions are awkward, sometimes they are a great learning experience, and sometimes they are damaging. I think it's important for parents to think about certain aspects before taking their adult child into a sex shop.

Before bringing your daughter into the shop, think about whether or not she actually wants to go in. It would be best to talk about it before hand, and discuss what you expect to get out of it. Is this supposed to be educational? Funny? Does she intend on purchasing anything, or is this a walk around? This may sound silly and overly precautious, but springing a surprise trip to the vibrator store on your teenage daughter can be a very traumatizing thing. I once saw a mother literally drag her daughter by her arm into the shop and then announce to the staff that this is her first time in. The girl covered her face with her hands and stayed deadly quiet as her mother twisted her arm around the shop and explained what these buzzing things were. I can almost assure you that the daughter will not return to a shop for a very long time. An adult shop is for people who can behave like adults, parent and child included. It is not appropriate to force a daughter, no matter if she's 18 or 48 to come into a store without her consent.

Do you really want to know this much personal information about her, and/or does she want you to know? Sex is an intimate thing, and sex shops are there to help inform you about pleasure and explore your sexuality. Some parents don't want to know how their children express their sexual desires, just like some children don't want their parents to know how and and why they have sex. I have had mothers bring in their daughters to buy a sex toy, but when the daughter starts to explain what she likes, the mother freaks out. When people start to freak out over other peoples sexual preferences, it creates a sense of shame for the person who just expressed it. I had a daughter explain to me that she wasn't having orgasms during sex and wanted something for external stimulation. When her mother heard this she started freaking out by giggling and making perverted jokes to her daughter. The daughter stopped asking questions and chuckled uncomfortably. The daughter was feeling shame, just as much as her mother was feeling uncomfortable. Needless to day, both of them didn't buy anything, nor ask any more educational questions.

I once saw a mother daughter interaction where they came in together, asked some questions, separated for a while for private shopping, and then reunited at the end. The mother didn't ask questions about her daughters intentions with the things she purchased, and the daughter in turn didn't feel shamed for being there. Sex toys weren't forced upon her and instead were seen as a positive addition to her sexual exploration.

Think about what you want out if the trip before you shop!

V-Somes

I recently got in a discussion with someone on the topic of "three-somes". This was brought up because my work has recently started carrying a larger variety of guides and manuals on the art of multiple sex partner interactions. The person I was speaking to started telling me about how much she loved threesomes, so I asked bluntly if she had sexual interactions with all the participants, or was it a V-some? She wasn't familiar with the term, and though I can't remember where I originally adopted it from, I will share it with you.

V-Some: A sexual encounter where two partners focus on the third partner, but do not have any sexual interest/encounters with each other. For example, a version of a three-some that you may be familiar with is a guy and two girls, with the two girls servicing him. This would be considered a "v-some", since the girls are not interacting with each other.

I don't use this term to deny anyone the right to brag about their three-some experiences, but when I hear the term "three-some" I will assume that all partners are interacting in a pleasurable sexual manner with each other and are not just focused on one person. If someone uses the term "v-some" it makes it clearer to me in the story who is having sex with whom.

A fun technicality term for your multiple sex partner needs

Faster, better, harder, stronger

I am always in awe of the sex toy industry when it comes to the holiday season and seeing the latest and greatest toy designs. Two years ago, it was rechargeable toys. Last year, it was waterproof rechargeable toys. Just when you thought it couldn't get more high tech? BAM! Remote controlled waterproof rechargeable vibrators. Remote controlled motion sensitive vibrators. Waterproof USB charged vibrators. Sound activated USB rechargeable remote controlled vibrators. Well done sex toy industry, I tip my proverbial hat to you.

Let's check out some cool ones, shall we?

We-Vibe 3


The We-Vibe itself has been around for a few years, but the company continuously updates their toys. The We-Vibe is designed as a "couples toy", though I like to describe it as a vaginal clip. The smaller end is inserted into the vagina, while the larger end rests on the outer vulva around the clit. The idea is that the smaller end is thing enough to allow a partner to penetrate the vagina while the vibration is going on. Also its rechargeable. Awesome, no?


The original We-Vibe was purple and had two speeds, high and low. Then they updated to the We-Vibe 2 which has a button when you can click through multiple setting and pulsation patterns. And came out with more colors like turquoise and red. Now, the We-Vibe 3 is here, which is not only 100% waterproof, and more powerful, but it also comes with a remote control! Well done We-Vibe.



The Club Vibe 2.0
OhMiBod is known for making toys that vibe to the sound of your iPod and other electronic devices. They are pretty high tech when it comes to sex toys. The Club Vibe 2.0 is, the the We-Vibe 3, an updated version of an existing model. The Club Vibe 1.0 is a little bullet that you slip into your panties that is attached to a battery pack. It has a multiple vibration setting, as well as a sound sensitive setting where it vibrates to the noise around it. The idea is that you can go to the club with this toy on and have a reallllllllly good time near the speakers. The 2.0 version is definitely an upgrade from the tiny bullet. The vibrator is now a remote control, where the receiver slips one part into the front of their undergarments (they do give you one in the box) and the controller has the ability to vibe them from across the room. The design is pretty sexy, with a sleek oval design that hugs the body. Also the controller can change just how sensitive to noise the toy is, which can lead to some pretty fun date nights. Did I mention that it charges using an USB cord?


Lyla, Tiant, and Oden
LELO is a high quality toy company that has won my heart over many a times. Their new line of "sense-motion" toys has by far been my favorite of their ideas.
These new toys are not only rechargeable and remote controlled, but they designed with "sense-motion" which means that the person with the controller can change the vibrations using the motion of their hands. So, depending on how fast you flick your hand back and forth your partners vibrations will be affected. I imagine a lot of people will be playing sexy tormenting games with this new technology. Currently the line has three toys. The Lyla is a basic egg vibe, which can be used externally or vaginally. The Oden is designed as a cockring, where the vibrator sits at the top of the package. The Tiani takes after the We-Vibe design, where it is meant to be used as a vibrator during insertion.


Duet
The Duet is very new. So new, I just got an info session about it today. But I am very exited to see this baby in action, and after holding it in my hand I am definitely saving up for this one.

The Duet is made by Crave, which believe is San Francisco based. Again, so new that I am unfamiliar with the company (sorry! But I love your stuff!) The Duet is an external vibe that is not only waterproof and rechargeable, but it is USB charged and some models actually have memory space on their USBs. What? I can store my porn in this thing? Yup! And let me tell you, this vibe is strong, and super classy looking and even comes with a fancy carrying case. I see a big future for this little guy.



What will they think of next?

Donations

My work is currently sponsoring a local charity that helps provide food for the disabled and elderly. Whenever there is a purchase, we politely ask the customer if they would like to make a $1 donation to help out. Usually people say yes or "not today" and go on with their purchase. And then there are the few who tend to stand out when it comes to their response.

So far my favorite was this guy:

Me: "Would you like to make a donation today?"

Guy: "No....I only donate to organizations about cats. Do they have a program for cats?"

Me: "I think this particular charity is for people."

Guy: "Don't get me wrong, it's a great program! My parents used one like it!"

Me: "Oh really? That's great, would you like to make a $1 donation then?"

Guy: "Too bad they don't have one for cats. Cause then I would donate. So no. No donation today."

It arrives

Holiday season is coming
We can sense it
The vibes are flying off the shelves
and people are asking for them to be wrapped
What will the holidays bring for us this year?
The new toys are to arrive sometime this month
Bigger, faster, stronger
Some are remote controlled
Some are USB charged
Rechargeable

Oh technology
You are a sassy mistress

Hey look it's me!
Scott R. Kline took this awesome picture of me and my toys for his project "True Calling". I usually don't post photos of me, but this one was too epic not to share!

Last night I didn't let this guy in the shop because
1. He was intoxicated
2. He didn't have his ID on him

He stood outside calling me a "fuckin' bitch" and when I went outside to tell him I was calling the police, he called me "the green goblin".

.....

What?

I've gotten "bitch" before, but "green goblin"? Am I a super villain chasing after Spiderman?

Probably my favorite insult I've ever had thrown at me from a disgruntled teen who couldn't get into a sex shop.